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This blog post was inspired by someone who came to be broken.

I don’t know too much about her, but her name is Beatrice (not her real name). She has been divorced and has a seven-year-old son, whom she is fighting to see. She hasn’t seen her son in two months. She has a boyfriend who doesn’t care about her. She suffers from PTSD as she was sexually abused by her biological father when she was younger. She was also sexually abused by previous partners. She doesn’t have any “true” friends.

I listened to her, but I didn’t know what…

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Photo by Savannah Wakefield on Unsplash

The world-wide-web is saturated with advice on “How To Be Productive” or “How To Improve Your Productivity.”

Sometimes I wonder why this much content on productivity? Why are people interested in doing more? Why are we interested in other people’s productivity routines? And why do we beat ourselves down when we aren’t productive?

If you’ve had a chance to check these “How To Be Productive” advice articles/videos you may recognize that several of them go a little something like this:

  1. Keep a notebook by your bed and plan out your day before going to sleep
  2. Have your clothes ready the…

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Photo by Windows on Unsplash

Since the beginning, working remotely was a challenge for me. After all, I’m an active girl who very quickly gets distracted. Working from home was not my space and I kind of already knew that. I enjoy office banter. I like to greet my coworkers whenever I pass them by and ask them how they are doing. I even enjoy bringing people delicious snacks so we can all hang out and enjoy break time together. This was all pre-COVID, by the way.

In fact, the majority of my social interactions happen at work. Outside work, I don’t have a social…

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Photo by Aman Shrivastava on Unsplash

Making friends as an adult is difficult and don’t even get me started talking about loneliness because I know the feeling all too well.

Too many times, I’ve asked myself the same questions over and over.

Why is it hard to make friends?

Am I doing something wrong?

Do I smell bad?

Is it my personality? The way I look?

Am I too selective?

Seriously, what is it?

To make friends, I’ve tried several things. I’ve created my own Meet-Up group, invited strangers to meet up, tried out Bumble BFF, and even asked a Starbucks barista if they wanted to…

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Photo by Christina @ on Unsplash

Remote meetings are still relatively new to me. I’ve only been doing it for about a year or so.

But no one told me how to be in a virtual meeting.

Do I have to have my camera on?

Am I speaking?

Do I have to prepare anything?

So far, I’ve just been playing these virtual meetings by ear. With no one calling me out yet.

But I’m here to lay down the rules based on both my experience and research. No more looking like a dumbass; I’m not necessarily talking about you; it’s more about me.

Mind you that…

It’s time to stop celebrating overworking

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Photo: Garrhet Sampson/Unsplash

For most of my life, “Nothing is impossible if you work hard enough…” is a saying that was tattooed into my psyche.

Yet, through personal experience, I know now that being hardworking is not all it is cut out to be.

The reality is, sometimes working hard isn’t enough, and chronic workaholism can be detrimental in the long run. If you aim for success and glory, whatever that may look like to you, know that working hard is part of it and not all of it.

What is “Hustle Culture?”

Hustle culture (aka “Burnout Culture,” “Workaholism,” or “Toxic Productivity”) is all about constantly working…

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Photo by Rebe Pascual on Unsplash

Mental health…

What do you feel when you hear the words “mental health”?

What is it and why do most people avoid talking about it?

Also, why is there more of a need for mental health awareness and services in the year 2020?

I find it quite fascinating that for many years mental health was put on the back burner. Not many people wanted to talk about it. Not many people wanted to acknowledge its existence. Not many people wanted to even know about it.

Now, I see mental health and wellness all across social media platforms and how important…

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Most of us will go through this experience at least once in our life. A bad situation can range from being in a bad relationship, being in the wrong place at the wrong time, a toxic work environment, etc. The spectrum of bad situations is broad.

Sometimes it’s a Catch-22.

What’s a “Catch-22”?

According to Wikipedia, A catch-22 is a paradoxical situation from which an individual cannot escape because of contradictory rules or limitations. Kind of like applying to an entry-level job when the employer asks for 5–10 years of experience. …

When a potential relationship comes along, I’m already thinking about the end.

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Photo by Denys Nevozhai on Unsplash

Most people don’t go into relationships thinking about the end.

But not me.

The problem with me is that with any potential relationship that comes my way, I’m already thinking about how it will end, whose going to end it, and what I have to do to get them to call the relationship “quits” so that I don’t have to. Because confrontation is not my thing.

I’m that ghost who will ghost you if I’m not having a good time. I am also the one who will stay away from you for as long as I can if you piss…

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Photo by Autumn Goodman on Unsplash

I’ve been in kind of a slump lately and although the quality of my life has improved I know I need to work on other things within myself.

If you asked if I was happy, I wouldn’t exactly say “yes” but rather I’m content or maybe even satisfied. But maybe there are different versions of happiness or maybe it means different things to different people. All I know is that happiness is a positive thing and is commonly associated with an ear-to-ear smile just like the woman in the picture above.

I’m not smiling like her. Rather, my face is…

Christine Lorelie

Content Creator | Digital Marketer | Biochemist | Future UX/UI Designer | Writing about mental health, wellness, and millennial culture @xtinelorelie

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